Borderline Personality Disorder and Projected Self-Loathing

  
Individuals with symptoms of borderline personality disorder (BPD) often lash out hurtfully at others. This may be in response to provocation such as frustration, disagreement, or disappointment, or it might seem to be unprovoked. The lashing out often takes the form of saying hurtful things or committing destructive acts toward those they are closest to. Understanding this behavior as an expression of their disorder will offer you tools to relate without being hurt by these episodes.
Hurtful lashing-out behaviors are common in those who suffer from BPD. This typically happens when they become frustrated because they cannot get their way or when others disagree with them, which they experience as being offensive. These episodes are sometimes initiated by the symptomatic person with a phone call, email, or text.
Following is a typical example of seemingly unprovoked lashing out. Tim answers his telephone on Sunday morning and speaks to his mother who has symptoms of BPD.
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Why children perceive time slower than adults

  
Children's perception of time is relatively understudied. Learning to see time through their eyes may be fundamental to a happier human experience.
My household is absorbed in debate over when time goes the fastest or slowest.
"Slowest in the car!" yells my son.
"Never!" replies my daughter. "I'm too busy for time to go slow, but maybe on weekends when we are on the sofa watching movies."
There's some consensus too; they both agree that the days after Christmas and their birthdays dawdle by gloomily as it dawns on them they have to wait another 365 days to celebrate once more. Years seem to drag on endlessly at their age.
It's a feeling I remember well; the summer holidays filled with water play, skipping on the freshly cut lawn, the laundry drying on the washing line whilst the Sun blazed. At moments like that, time really did feel like it moved slowly.
Teresa McCormack, a professor of psychology who studies cognitive development at Queen's University Belfast in Northern Ireland, believes children and time is a hugely understudied topic. Her work has long probed whether there is something fundamentally different about time processes in children, such as an internal clock that functions at a different speed to that of adults. But there are still more questions than answers.
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How Mindfulness Can Help You Become More Humble

There's an old story about a sage who lived in a lofty  mountain hermitage. It was attached to a cave where he often meditated, but his  followers and benefactors had also built him a lovely little building that  housed all his books and provided him with a very comfortable place to sleep  and a dining area with a sweeping view of many valleys below and peaks in the  distance. Also attached to the building was a closet-like dwelling for his  faithful attendant.

One morning the sage declared that he would like to go down  to the village to exchange some of his tattered books for new ones and see what  newly minted works of philosophy he could get his hands on. Reaching the  village required crossing a rope bridge strung high above a gorge. As they  approached the entry to the bridge, the attendant hesitated. He rarely  interrupted his master, who loathed having his contemplative silence broken,  but this time he felt he must speak up, knowing that his master's eyesight had  been weakened by so much reading. "Master," he broke in, "I fear the bridge  needs to be repaired. The rope looks very frayed to me." Perturbed, and eager  to get to the village, the sage responded brusquely, "How would you know? It  seems perfectly fine to me."
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